Taking Accountability Is The Best Option

Introduction:There have been many moments and instances where you might have made a mistake; it could be a blunder or a minor one, but you see it as a mistake, and others also see it as an error. Even though we should take blame and learn from certain mistakes we make in our lives, the tendency to completely shift blame to something else is quite alarming in numerous ways.

Egoism:

Over time, when someone shifts criticism away from themselves, they build the tendency and habit to start to repeat it. This retortion is not healthy because it completely changes how we think and operate. When there is a problem, and we truly do make a mistake, it is imperative that we fully understand why it was caused and how we can learn from it. It teaches us how to grow from different situations and why mental development is such an important aspect of our health. Sticking constantly to false excuses or skewed judgments transfers our current beliefs and actions to a system that relies on others' mistakes. Actions such as

• Blaming a teammate for performing badly

• Criticizing a classmate for their presentation skills

• Yelling at peers and colleagues for no apparent reason

It may seem normal for some of us, but it is slowly eating away at our kindness and sympathy. You start to believe you are not the one at fault, and it is simply the environment and external options. You could have completely messed up the documentation on an important assignment, but if you blame it on your classmate for not responding in time or other factors, we feel less inclined to grow from our mistakes. Egos start to develop rapidly and the world becomes heliocentric around you rather than the other 8 billion people. You need to remember that other people have their own problems and issues, and you shouldn’t make it more difficult for anyone.

Mindfulness:

Picture yourself in a tense situation where it is not only yourself. For many of us videogames involve several members of a team heading towards a common objective to win. Valorant, for example, involves 5 members, including yourself, and you need to fight and shield off another team of 5. At the end of the game, a statsheet is displayed on the screen for everyone to see. When we play badly, we tend to shift responsibility to our internet or our computer for not rendering frames fast enough, or we criticize other people for taking the game too seriously, but if the roles are swapped, our minds do not care. We immediately blame our teammates, often with hostile insults that make them feel disappointed to a great extent. Even if they had played terribly in one or two games, it is not our judgment to dictate their skills because we, too, have had performances that were abysmal and lackluster.

When a situation similar to one discussed in the previous paragraph arises, try to turn off the game; if it is your phone, try to keep it locked in another room for a couple of hours. If it is your PC, immediately log off from your game. Reflect upon things you could’ve done better, we try our best to pretend we played the perfect game, but think about the one extra death that you accumulated might have cost your teammates to fall. Other variables are at fault. We tend to relate everything to causation:” As soon as I leave, we immediately fall apart”. Well, perhaps it's because your team is against a team with an additional team member. What if our teammates had internet issues, or some work appeared at a random time, which inhibited them from performing at their best?  You need to look at a deeper and clearer lens. There is more than one reason why circumstances have occurred, and it is not because of what we believe.

Introduction:

There are situations where we have tried our best, and it is decided by our peers to perform in order to achieve the best possible outcome. But there are also situations where it may not be possible, and certainly situations where we have been the underperforming one. We need to feel empathetic and try to relate to whatever situation we are in. Try thinking to yourself, “If I were in this exact situation and looked at it at a different angle, could I really be thinking the truth?”