Building Confidence Through Speaking

Introduction:

Through countless encounters and social situation, there are many times where we have not engaged as proficiency as we should of. In situations where it requires several opinions and different reasoning to formulate an accurate idea, we tend to not speak to our full capacity because of judgment and saying inaccurate things. There will be times where we cannot speak, but you must offer some intake on your beliefs as it will help you and the group grow.

Self Growth:

When you speak in front of a group, all eyes lay on you and it is up to you to speak at your fullest and offer your insight. However, this can be a bit nerveracking and stressful. Especially in modern society, people have very limited range in what they can tolerate and listen to without being bored, so it is dependent upon you to speak in an enticing way to prove your point. It doesn’t matter what the conversation is about: sports, school, videogames, businesses. In general the same principles apply,

• Listen intently and understand the main problem

• Speak your beliefs, even if they may counter the conformity 

• Stay respectful and do not cross any boundaries

You need to mitigate your emotions from controlling your words, and focus on your brain. Conversations rely on your ability to adapt and respond to different situations. If someone asks you your favorite basketball player, you should have a clear answer and ageneral jist of your response within a couple of seconds. Obviously, your response can change depending on the other person’s words, but the overall premise should be similar. If they counter with something completely out of the ordinary, you need to intently listen and move on from there.

In business or school situations, you will tend to be asked to memorize and analysize different scenarios. This often takes more energies than the other forms of socialising because your brain in more fixated on completing tasks and spreaidng information outward. You build as an individual, and you grow as a whole. You start to learn and pick up on different patterns due to the wide array of questions you’ll be asked. Even something as simple as homework problems and asking your classmates how to solve them can build yourself because you are learning new patterns and connections. Also, you can spread your knowledge and help other people. This vastly builds confidence as you feel honored and prvilleged to teach someone else who may not understand the topic as well you go.

It may seem like videogames are a waste of time, but they also can build your confidence and speaking capabilities. When you’re good at a game, you are asked to do and complete more tasks than other places because of your skill. You start to give advice and assign different roles to your teammates, and this builds leadership in yourself. You understand how to act accordingly and with enough respect so you do not insult your teammates. Everyone loves someone who is able to be a leader and is respectable simultaneously, because they feel more inclined to be connected with you as a person. 

Group Growth:

Speaking not only affects the individual, but also how a group perceives you. You need to realize people aren't going to care if you do not speak, so you’re already starting at a low spot. You shouldn’t feel scared of judgment because there is nothing to judge. When encountering new people, or if you’re in situations you’ve not encountered before, you need to listen and respond accordingly. You want to make statements concise and clear. If someone asks you for your opinion on a certain topic, make your statement clear and speak the truth. You shouldn’t lie to yourself because you’re going to need to reason with your lies. Over time, people will eventually see through them because they are built on fallacies.

When you speak, other people will listen to you. Even if there are not many, there will be at least one who cares enough and is willing to listen to your words. That person will experience self-growth and will resonate with you because they actually care about your ideas and reasons. You can build a connection with that individual because of common interests and goals. Focus on speaking for yourself and not for others.

Conclusion:

Young teens and adults have slowly started to become more shy and speak with less confidence. There are numerous different reasons why they may be experiencing anxiety, but it is important to know that everyone can escape the fear and build upon themselves as a person.