Don’t Let Others Define You: Define Yourself

Introduction:

Has there been a time when you were pitching an idea or talking in front of an audience, and some people in the crowd nod in agreement, but other people tend to chatter and do not feel invested in your words? You’ve spent countless hours, revised several times, rehearsed in front of friends and family, and used criticism to improve your final presentation, yet some people do not feel obligated or interested in your sentences. We should feel happy about the people who do care and ask questions about our ideas, and those who ask questions via text or call. But we tend to focus on the negatives, which demotivates us from truly understanding our talents and improving as individuals. We spend so much time and do so much research, but if a couple of people do not care, we feel betrayed and paralyzed from continuing. Why is that?

Why are we sensitive towards negativity?

Humans are diverse and distinct creatures. We are among the most complex, both biologically and mentally, and we can think abstractly, speak in complex ways, and demonstrate a wide array of cognitive abilities. It is natural to feel superior and, in a sense, egotistical, but that is not a negative trait. It is essential to feel pride and to showcase it to others, but it is just as necessary to display it meaningfully and appropriately. Obviously, if we spend countless hours perfecting something and researching dozens of studies, notes, and speeches, we will ensure that our words and ideas are impeccable and that everyone will agree with them. However, everyone thinks and values ideas differently, and that stems from thousands of years of biological and psychological transformations. It hurts when someone doesn’t value us, but it is also strange that we focus on the small percentage of negatives rather than celebrating our successes.

We need to Care More:

As society progresses and we learn more about our complex brains and thought processes, we need to value ourselves as well. It is similar to a paradox: everyone prefers themselves to everyone else, yet we tend to downplay our achievements or skills. Human nature’s natural pride will blame it on surroundings, circumstances, luck, or other supernatural forces, but day by day, we are becoming more pessimistic. We want to be understood and valued at a higher level than everyone else, but others may think our preferred ideas are obsolete. Every single person, including our family, has different morals and preferences, and we need to accept the fact. Do not feel demotivated when someone critiques or completely ignores your work because they simply do not care enough to listen. However, some people may want to listen, and we should value those people and ask them how to improve ourselves. Focus on the positives, not the negatives. There will be times when negativity will be prominent, and we’ll focus on it, but remember to stay mentally strong as your mind guides you in the right direction. People build their knowledge, athleticism, body, businesses, and certain activities for enjoyment. But people neglect the most important thing: The mind. Successful people and strong minds tend to correlate because a strong mindset allows you to test and widen your comfort zone and attempt things that are infrequent.  A fixed mind and one that relies on negativity will shorten and narrow your path, and you’ll be impaired in situations.

Motivate Yourself

• There is a one in 400 trillion chance of becoming a human.”

A simple statement, it seems impossible, but it is scientifically proven, and it is astonishing to read a second time. 

It is rare to be human; we should be grateful for the opportunity to live our lives and try food, play basketball, play Fortnite, or do anything else. There will be times when we all feel negative about something, but we need to stay strong and repeat the words in our head,

• There is a one in 400 trillion chance of me being born; I need to make the most of it

How does English relate to Mindset:

English is one of the most widespread and influential languages in the entire world. It is difficult and time-consuming to learn, but the benefits are stupendous. We’ve covered the significant changes it can bring to an individual if they learn the language, but it is uncommon for us to talk about the changes it brings to their confidence and mind. Learning a second language is great; you can tell your friends and have more opportunities as a civilian. English improves psychological things as well, not just speaking with foreigners, and that is what makes learning a language imperative.

Conclusion:

We want to focus on the wide array of benefits English provides for our learners and people in general. But it is equally important to have a strong mindset and take proper steps to build confidence and showcase your skills to the world. English is the bridge that connects all of us, and confidence is the foundation that enables effective communication and safety.